Jonn
- Otherkin - Shapeshifter
Bengal Tiger/Humanoid
you cannot fight yourself.
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Post by Jonn on Oct 18, 2009 13:10:47 GMT
ok guys get ready this ones a big one. I feel like I'm falling apart my minds a mess. I'm worryed about the fact that I can't feel guilt or sorrow. I'm getting closer and closer to having a break down.which is not a good thing becuase I skip getting upset and go straight to getting angry. for the first time in my life I just want to give up. But I can't every person I know looks to me to be the strong one the calm one the person who always solves the problems and is always happy and ready. to sum this all up I just don't know what to do any more I don't even know who I am any more. If you have advice on how to help me pull my self back together please tell me.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 18, 2009 14:19:08 GMT
If you were aged 17 or so i would just say it's something common for your age, and that almost everyone feels like that at least a couple of times. But i don't feel like i've got enough experience to help someone who has got more life experience than i do. It just doesn't feel okay to do so.
All i can say is that find out what's causing you to feel down, and work your way up by solving things. And also, talk to your close friends in real life.
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Post by Re Harakhti on Oct 18, 2009 14:42:26 GMT
Perhaps one of the reasons why you CAN'T get upset, is to do with the fact that breaking down is considered a weakness, and you don't want to appear weak. You may feel deep down that you can't afford to be weak infront of others. I think perhaps you are afraid of losing emotional control of yourself, and coming to terms with your own inner pain too.
Now I don't know Loads, as I only took a brief year stint of Psychology at College - but perhaps you are letting people rely on you MUCH too heavily, and you've become a scapegoat for them. You probably feel a sense of completeness and usefulness when they rely on you, and you may be afraid that they won't see you the same if you let your emotions get the better of you. But you may need to realise that it's not wrong to show your weaknesses to people, and they can sometimes connect with you much better that way.
If that is the case, you need to let them know that they cannot rely on you all the time anymore. There is a difference between helping a friend/family member through a difficult time, and constantly holding their heads above water, when they should learn to swim on their own.
Get your life back, and your self esteem. I think you need to discover what makes you happy, for a change.
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