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Post by Deleted on May 5, 2011 17:46:50 GMT
I calmed down a little since the earlier incident but now I'm just a tad confused where I'm going in life.
First of all there is my mom. It's not the fact that I get upset when s**t happens to me. It's the fact that my mom never gives me any advice I need and only makes a situation worse. It's like she's attempting to break me. She is nice and all and I'm lucky to have here as a mother. But she does do a lot of things that bother me. She tends to talk on the phone in the car and at a very loud voice. She also listens to and only listens to Fox News for her only source of news. I've tried to prove to her of the partisan involved and there phrase of "fair and balanced" and how it's false. But she dismissed my proof saying it's "my opinion" while it's evidence (which is fact.) I'm sure she would even say "Obama Bin Laden" is dead (insert derp here) She also views grades in such an obscured manner. That a grade will determine how smart you are. But a grade is simply a scale of what you need to work on. It's simply a mark, as long as you were able to learn the information then you did very well. I'm also highly against tests and many of my professors agree with me. A test just simply proves you can regurgitate all the information on a piece of paper. My mom thinks it proves your worth. My life skills teacher did say the proper state of mind is to "F*** the test," really that's what he said to me. It's just like another lecture. When I gave mom that advice she passes as being "too liberal" which doesn't even make sense. Did I also mention she brings up politics in EVERYTHING. My teacher was way too conservative to give me any liberal views. I could really ramble about my mother for the entire page but overall, she reminds me of the wolfaboo of the conservatives (I don't have anything against conservatives). It really does cause a lot of unneeded anxiety through my life.
These are just some things that have been going on in my life. I have no idea how to deal with my mom.
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Post by Deleted on May 7, 2011 20:37:56 GMT
I agree with you completely on these topics; my dad is just like your mom.
It gets really annoying... it's like he always has to be right.
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Post by Railaybara on May 8, 2011 1:24:26 GMT
@ebesu The best advice that I can possibly give you is to simply try to push through it. It's not like in these situations that you could do much, that is correct right? The main thing I would suggest is to not blow up at her, because things will only get worse from there. I believe that there is a way through it, but not an easy one. -Michael
In my opinion, these are just one of those things that almost all parents do. I've seen and experianced my fair share of it, and it doesn't help getting pissed or talking back. It does help to just vent when these things happen or just relax. That's my greatest advice, and I hope things get better for you in the future. -Rail
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Post by Werecat on May 8, 2011 21:23:02 GMT
@ebesu
Given it’s Mother’s Day today in the U.S., try growing up without a mom. I think you’ll find yourself very lucky to have her. I know I'm lucky to have my mom, even if we don't always agree on things.
However, if things are really so bad for you, you can always move out and get your own place where you can be liberal as you want without anyone telling you otherwise.
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Post by Deleted on May 8, 2011 22:13:56 GMT
@ebesu
I've never had a good relationship with my mother and as soon as I was able to, I moved out. I'm glad that I did because I was in an authoritarian home where it's their way or the highway. I wasn't able to meditate, learn more about my thrianthropy, and explore my beliefs (it was a nightmare). So, I'm glad I made the decision to move out.
But in all fairness, I agree with Werecat on here. Though I haven't grown up without a mom, in some cases, it's better to grow up with one that seems to be annoying (to you, that is), than without one. I've known a lot of people that have grown up that had mothers and glad that they had one (I wasn't given that privelage).
As far as political stuff goes, my household was very much down the Progressive Replublican lane (big government Republican). I was (and still am. I am proud to be one) a Libertarian that focuses on very little government. Though I don't agree with them, dosn't mean I have to take a stand and tell them to change their ways. In America, it's a free country (at least free-er before they take our inalienable rights away-- sorry for that short rant >.> *ahem* ) and they should be allowed to do what they please.
So, what Werecat said, if things gets too much (gets you overwhelmed/ can't take it anymore) you can always have the chance to move out (to get some space). I'm sure that things will get better since things got a lot better for me .
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Post by Deleted on May 8, 2011 22:34:59 GMT
@ebesu
I've never had a good relationship with my mother and as soon as I was able to, I moved out. I'm glad that I did because I was in an authoritarian home where it's their way or the highway. I wasn't able to meditate, learn more about my thrianthropy, and explore my beliefs (it was a nightmare). So, I'm glad I made the decision to move out.
But in all fairness, I agree with Werecat on here. Though I haven't grown up without a mom, in some cases, it's better to grow up with one that seems to be annoying (to you, that is), than without one. I've known a lot of people that have grown up that had mothers and glad that they had one (I wasn't given that privelage).
As far as political stuff goes, my household was very much down the Progressive Replublican lane (big government Republican). I was (and still am. I am proud to be one) a Libertarian that focuses on very little government. Though I don't agree with them, dosn't mean I have to take a stand and tell them to change their ways. In America, it's a free country (at least free-er before they take our inalienable rights away-- sorry for that short rant >.> *ahem* ) and they should be allowed to do what they please.
So, what Werecat said, if things gets too much (gets you overwhelmed/ can't take it anymore) you can always have the chance to move out (to get some space). I'm sure that things will get better since things got a lot better for me . I do thank you all for your responses. Just one thing for this one. Politics, it's a matter of taking it too far. I don't mind conservtives at all. I just don't like her for only taking news from one source, being ignorant, bigotry, only thinking that the only news that exists is CNN and Fox and there is some war going on between them, etc. My brother did tell me before I just have to accept it until I got out of the house. It's also is hard for me to meditate when stressed mainly for being in the house. I hope to be getting a job. Maybe I would be able to move out at some point. I really hope I can.
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Post by Deleted on May 8, 2011 22:45:26 GMT
@ebesu Given it’s Mother’s Day today in the U.S., try growing up without a mom. I think you’ll find yourself very lucky to have her. I know I'm lucky to have my mom, even if we don't always agree on things. Yeah, I made her a card today. xD And I do understand I'm going to have disagreements with her. I just don't like the idea I can't argue with her on anything. Like my opinion doesn't matter. If your familiar with my with my YouTube channel then you would see I take a strong opinion on certain matters. And it's probably the reason I started ranting on YouTube, to let off some steam. xD Of course I do love my mom. It just really bothers me that she doesn't want to accept anything that would go against her beliefs. I always try to contradict myself, it makes me learn more. She's in collage and should be the more educated type, but she never tries to go though the critical thinking process. Which is scary of someone in her status.
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Post by Telegdrian on May 8, 2011 23:42:11 GMT
@ebesu
The only person you have any control over is yourself. You can not make up someones mind for them, you can only show them evidence and hope that they are open minded enough to take a look at it. Some people will never look at any evidence that is outside their beliefs, and that is their loss. Life is too short and there are too many interesting things to do to spend it banging your head against the wall trying to talk with close minded people. I think it is time to move on. Just accept your mother the way she is, and live your own life the way you want to.
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